Generation Game

I seem to be hearing a lot of talk at the moment about the generational divides – baby boomers, Gen X, Gen Y, millennials – usually involving one group sounding off at the other’s expense. In one way this is nothing new – older people have been berating the idleness of youth from time immemorial, while younger men and women have always loved to point out the ways that their elders have messed up society. What worries me is that these new generational titles seem to give a semblance of intellectual respectability to this way of talking. In other areas of life we seem increasingly aware of nuance – that we can’t, for example, make sweeping statements of ‘how women behave’ or ‘what men want’ without bringing into the conversation factors of race, class, sexuality, and individual psychology. But we seem comfortable making statements that ‘baby boomers behave like this’ and ‘Gen Y don’t do that’ which seem to get in the way of real engagement with one another.
Church is one of the few places in our society which is truly and intentionally inter-generational – it would be great if we could avoid the labels and hear the variety of voices with which each generation speaks. Then we might have our best chance of learning from the wisdom of all age groups, and know that the Spirit is at work in all of us, as Joel put it: “In the last days it will be, God declares, that I will pour out my Spirit upon all flesh, and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, and your young men shall see visions, and your old men shall dream dreams.” (Joel 2:28)

(I write this as one who, back in Europe where the pace of social change has been different from North America, was an old Gen X-er and who in Canada is a young baby boomer. )

Hope and Heartache

Twenty years ago I was ordained a deacon in the Church of England. It was a wonderful and terrifying day as I stepped into a new ministry feeling all too conscious of my failings and frailty and also of the honour that was being entrusted to me.

I served my curacy in a rural parish in Herefordshire, a county on the border of Wales famous for hops and apples and half-timbered houses. I was the first ordained woman in a church of which the oldest parts dates from the 13th century and there were some members of the congregation who were none too thrilled with this innovation. A number were honest about the fact that, while they welcomed me as a deacon, they were not sure whether they could receive my ministry if I was ever to be priested.

It was while I was in this rural parish that the vote on women priests took place in London about 6 months after I’d been deaconed. I went and stood outside the debating chamber with hundreds of others, all holding our breath to see whether our vocation would be recognized. The relief and joy when the vote went through were tremendous. I arrived home that night to find more messages than ever before on my answer phone (oh, those far off days before email) and my untidy garden transformed with beautiful autumn flowers – the work of parishioners who thought that vote would go the wrong way and wanted to let me know that I was loved and cherished.

All this is in my heart and mind today as I watch the Church of England fail yet again to move forward on women bishops. I think of the gifts of the women I was ordained with, of the need to connect with a secular society for whom women’s equality is a done deal, of my great affection for a Church which nurtured my faith and called me to ministry – and I am brought to tears but not to despair.

The day of my priesting in Hereford Cathedral in 1994, the first ordination of women to the priesthood in that diocese, was the Eve of St Julian’s Day. The cathedral was packed. The bishops had given us roses to carry down the aisle and our friends and families and worshiping communities were all celebrating with us. At the end of the service, as the procession was leaving, hundreds of balloons were let down by the great west door, all bearing Julian’s message ‘All shall be well’.

The movement of the Spirit may be delayed but it will not be denied. I firmly believe we will find a way through this, that the gifts of my sister priests in England will not be denied to the episcopate indefinitely. It has to be so if the Church of England is to survive. It has to be so if the hearts that rejoiced in 1994 and are broken today are to be mended.

Star Gazing

A couple of weeks ago we drove up Mount Seymour to watch the Perseid meteor shower away from the bright lights of the city. It was a lovely evening with excellent viewing conditions – warm and clear with very little moonlight. We parked at the far end of one of the parking lots, where there was a large enough gap in the trees to show lots of sky, and lay on a rug by our car with eyes fixed on the heavens.

We weren’t alone in our contemplation. All along one side of the lot there were parked cars with small knots of people sitting or standing nearby – or in one case, snuggling in nests of blankets on top of the car itself. So every shooting star was accompanied by a chorus of ‘ooohs’ and ‘looks!’ or ‘I missed that one’ breaking through the gentle background murmur of good friends exchanging confidences and swapping jokes in the dark.

The stars, those that stayed in their place as well as the shooting ones, were beautiful. And so was the feeling of human companionship and the shared appreciation of a special night. It was a reminder for me of one of the things I love about Christian spirituality – that it’s a spirituality only properly done in communion with others. I personally love and need time alone but I also relish the companionship of a shared spiritual journey.

Look up from time to time and see the beauty singing from the skies. Look sideways often and see the beauty laughing and weeping in human faces. Look inwards now and again and see the beauty springing deep within. All three viewpoints are called for if we’re to open our eyes to behold the beauty of the divine.

Not so nice

Nice girls aren’t supposed to be angry – even when they’ve grown up into not-always-nice women – neither, of course, are nice Christians and definitely not nice priests. So I am, just at the moment, failing the niceness test because I am angry. Specifically I am angry about the position of ordained women in the Church.

Partly this comes from watching the Church of England trip over itself in its wearily long drawn out journey towards having women bishops. But, before we pat ourselves on the back in the Anglican Church of Canada, it’s worth remembering that the numbers of women in leadership here are hardly stellar. Out of 42 bishops all of 5 are women. Even the clerical leadership in our diocese of New Westminster is overwhelmingly male.

There are four common responses I’ve encountered when this issue is raised:
1. We’ve had more women in the past, just not now.
2. Surely we’re beyond the stage of needing to look at gender.
3. We asked women but they said no/no women applied.
4. We just appointed the best individual for the job.

All very reasonable, all very persuasive on the surface. But none of these responses seems to be adequate enough to allow me to pack away my anger and revert to nice Ellen. Instead I want to answer:
1. So? A past justice only highlights a present injustice.
2. The numbers make it clear that no we are NOT beyond that stage.
3. What is it in the culture that makes women reluctant to take on leadership in the church?
4. What is it in the culture that makes it easier for us to see gifts in men than in women?

I would be very interested in people’s answers to those last two questions – do feel free to post them as comments.

So, for now, I’ll live with being angry. I’ll try and bring it into my spiritual practice – maybe using one of the angrier psalms as a way of finding words to express this in prayer; reminding myself that though the meek are blessed so also are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness.

And, for now, I’ll carry on trying to be a woman leader in a male dominated environment without either becoming “one of the boys” or so alienated as to be unable to work for the change I hope to see.

 

June-uary Jesus Prayer

I was getting the bus on a typical wet and cold Vancouver June-uary day this afternoon to take me to the DTES (downtown east side for those not from these parts). It’s not an attractive place to be heading to on a grey day and I wasn’t feeling at my chirpiest to start off with. So, both to shift my mood and make the bus ride a little more purposeful, I resorted to what is my default go-to prayer practice of the moment – the Jesus Prayer.

This is one of the oldest forms of Christian prayer as well as one of the simplest. Its traditional form is ‘Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, Have mercy on me, a sinner’. The two halves of the prayer are like two wings beating together to carry you into an awareness of God’s presence. Its simplicity invites repetition and provides a focus in the midst of other activity – like taking transit (public transport if you’re reading this from the other side of the pond).

Some people struggle with the identification of themselves as a sinner because it takes them into places of judgment and shame. I actually like it. Firstly it’s accurate. Secondly it reminds me that I don’t have to be perfect to be in God’s presence and to be loved by God. Thirdly it makes me feel at one with all the rest of glorious, muddled and sinful humanity. This, in turn and slightly contrariwise, then often leads me to change the last phrase to ‘have mercy on us’ so that I can include all the rest of the bus in my prayer.

The other gift this prayer gives to me is the sense that I’m not praying alone but am caught up in a whole sweeping river of prayer across the centuries as well as across the world. The language might not be what I would choose if I was writing the prayer today, but it has achieved its own holiness through its faithful, hopeful repetition by others, alike and different from me, who have been striving to be aware of the presence of God in their everyday lives. So I can get over myself and dive in with the rest of them.

I won’t pretend that the Jesus Prayer brought sunshine and beauty into my afternoon but it did remind me that God is present in the grey and the ugly making them a little less gloomy than they first appeared.

Thoughts for Trinity Sunday

Tomorrow is Trinity Sunday – the day when the preacher is entrusted with the task of explicating one of the most mysterious of Christian doctrines. In the seminary where I trained in Oxfordshire the old tradition was that all the seminarians were sent out to preach in the local parishes each Trinity Sunday to prove that their theology was up to scratch – and, of course, to give the country parsons the morning off.

Now I personally believe that the doctrine of the Trinity is easier to experience than to explain. We experience it whenever we know God in three different ways – as the mystery that transcends and holds all being, as the loving companion who walks with us through all the sorrows and joys of life, and as the spark of love and ache of yearning at the deepest depth of our own self.

But in order to help us experience this reality – or, at least, to help us put words to our experience – we often need poetry more than theology. So here are a selection of poems, prayers and reflections which open up the Trinity to the heart more than to the head.

 

Two from Janet Morley –

Giver of Life,
Bearer of Pain
Maker of Love.

O God our mystery,
You bring us to life,
Call us to freedom,
And move between us with love.
May we so participate
In the dance of your trinity
That our lives may resonate with you
Now and forever.

One from Meister Eckhart –

‘Do you want to know what goes on in the heart of the Trinity?
I’ll tell you.
At the heart of the Trinity
The Father laughs, and gives birth to the Son.
The Son then laughs back at the Father,
And gives birth to the Spirit.
Then the whole Trinity laughs,
And gives birth to us.’

One from St Augustine –

Lover
Beloved
Love

Two from me –

God known and unknown
Beyond
Beside
Within

Infinite love,
dancing creation,
holding all being in life.

Passionate love,
our dancing partner,
beckoning us into joy.

Intimate love,
heart dancing Spirit,
breathing our fears into hope.